In life, we sometimes say we'll never do somethings. But then we end up doing them anyway.
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Things I Swore I’ll Never do But Did Anyway

In life, we sometimes say we'll never do somethings. But then we end up doing them anyway.

I don’t know how many times I said I’ll never do something only to do it anyway. That’s the main reason I don’t make New Year’s resolutions: life is too complex for that.  “Never say never,” as the saying goes.

In life, we sometimes say we'll never do somethings. But then we end up doing them anyway.

We often regret the things we did despite swearing that we won’t. “How could I be so stupid?” and “But I swore I’d never…” But then I look at my list of things I swore I’d never do and think to myself that sometimes breaking promises isn’t that bad.

  • Live abroad

I never wanted to live abroad. But since the man I married is German (and I’m Polish), it feels like I had no choice. But do you hear me complaining? No. Oh well, just a little bit.

  • Marry a German

Speaking of marrying a German, that was never the plan either. A man from Britain or France? Sure. But a German? Why? Wouldn’t he be too organized for my chaotic nature? Turns out, no. He isn’t. In fact, he perfectly balances out my chaos.

  • Have kids

Even as a child, I knew that being a mother was hard work. I wasn’t sure whether I wanted to do it. But then I decided that having kids wouldn’t be so bad. Turns out, I was right. And the other me was right too: having children is difficult. But it isn’t so bad either.

  • Drink alcohol

Well, I still don’t drink that much of it, to be honest. I’ve never drunk much, not even as a teen or in my twenties. Now, if I have one beer or cider once a year, that’s already a lot. But I swore I’d never drink, not even a drop, so needed to include that in this list. 

  • Drink coffee

When I was little, I said to my mom, “When I grow up, I’ll wear glasses and drink coffee.” Well, I wear glasses (it helps if you want to see something other than smudges of colors), but I changed my mind about the coffee. From this moment on, no coffee, ever! But now, as a mother, I realize that once in a while, maybe once in a few weeks, coffee is necessary for proper functioning.

  • Be a SAHM

Because my mom has worked all of her adult life, it was evident to me that I would too. But when I became a mother myself, I was studying, I moved to a new country, and I had a hard time overall. Staying at home wasn’t a choice for me, and it made me miserable. I consider myself a writer now, and that helps immensely.

  • Become a writer

When asked, “What do you want to do?” it never occurred to me to reply, “I want to be a writer.” Among my ideas for future jobs were: ice cream vendor (because ice cream makes people happy); Translator; “Something with books”; “Something with culture” “Something with languages.” But being a writer allows me to do all of it: make people happy, translate, work with language, culture, and books. In other words, it’s the dream job I didn’t know I wanted.

  • Have only female friends

I was proud of my ability to be friends with men. It gave me the feeling of being special. In fact, I still miss my male friends. But maybe focusing on male friendships made me overlook the wonderful connections women can have with each other.

  • Start a blog

I first heard about blogs in 2007. And I laughed at the idea.  “Having a blog is not for me,” I proclaimed proudly. Life proved me wrong, once again. But as it turns out, having a blog was not just great. It turned out to be the perfect medium for me, in every possible way.

  • Learn to drive

Knowing about my coordination issues, I’ve always felt driving was not the best idea for me. My father, however, insisted. “You need to be able to drive a car,” he said. “Do I?” I thought, thinking of my mom who doesn’t drive either. But since my father paid for the driving class, and after I managed to pass the exam the second time around, I found myself the owner of a driving license. Said license looked very nice in my wallet until it expired four years ago. I haven’t even considered getting a new one. I guess it’s too late to become a professional car racer.

What about you? What have did you swear you’d never do only to do it anyway? And did you regret it? 

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9 Comments

  • Reply Kidzlens January 17, 2017 at 12:38 pm

    No 3 and 6 is so me. Yes things we think and then we do

  • Reply woollythinker January 17, 2017 at 2:01 pm

    Ohhh yes. I really thought I’d never get married, never have kids, and CERTAINLY never be a stay-at-home mom. But here I am. A very reluctant hausfrau, but a hausfrau for sure, and I’m slowly losing the desire to get back into regular work. (I do various freelance things at home – always have, but usually alongside some regular office hours. As you know, working from home is really hard to manage around kids, but in some ways it suits me very well.)

    I dove into blogs as soon as I heard of them, in 2006. Instant love. But I didn’t see the point of Twitter or Instagram. Or Ravelry (knitter’s platform). I was so wrong about all of them…

    Oh, and for a while there I never wore jeans. Now it’s hard to wear anything else. Curse this hausfrau life.
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  • Reply Pinar Tarhan January 17, 2017 at 4:45 pm

    I’m with you on the driving. I want to do it, but I don’t trust my coordination capabilities. But I want to move to LA in the future, and I’m freaked out by the fact that no one supposedly walks there. I’ll try to see if I can get by on a bike. 🙂 But whenever I watch an action film, someone’s driving comes in handy, so I want a licence. Also, when I grew up, I saw that there so many terrible drivers that I wouldn’t be a nightmare on the road. For one, I am a strict believer in using turn signals. 😀
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  • Reply Ydel Zuriel January 20, 2017 at 12:42 pm

    I thought I would quit smoking starting this year. But I couldn’t quit and I still smoke regularly. To be honest, it’s being increased. You know what, I blame the winter for my smoking.

  • Reply Stuart B January 31, 2017 at 11:30 am

    How did you make the move into writing professionally? Was it something that came from blogging or were you already doing it?
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    • Reply Olga Mecking February 2, 2017 at 9:27 am

      Hi Stuart, I think this requires a post all on its own! Basically, first I started the blog, then I was added to several blogger groups, and then I started guest-posting for others, and then I started submitting my writing to sites that don’t pay, then ones that paid a little, and then to those that paid more. I’m not doing it full-time though and I still don’t think of myself as a “real” writer.

      • Reply Stuart B February 14, 2017 at 3:29 pm

        Thanks. That’s good to know. It’s the kind of thing I was thinking about starting to do.

        I still struggle a little with thinking of myself as a writer and I still tend to down play my blog a lot when talking to people about it in person. But I once read somewhere that if you write you are a writer so I’ve forced myself to start telling people that 🙂
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      • Reply Marlee February 27, 2017 at 6:19 am

        Die hat sie ja wohl nicht mehr alle -.- Ich hätte waihscheinlrch "Jeder wie er kann" zurück gebrüllt, wäre aber stinkesauer gewesen!

  • Reply Janet April 19, 2017 at 12:47 pm

    Hi Olga! I’m glad to see that I’m not the only one who is living a life I had never thought of before. Yes, it’s not totally bad, in fact I think it’s good. It’s actually exciting but in my case, people love to taunt me. They make me feel guilty for choosing to be different. I hope I’m able to ignore all that very soon. Thanks for sharing your story!
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